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Dad to a butterfly child & 2 rescues. Husband to an inspiration. Author. Olympian. High performance coach. Keynote presenter. Workshop facilitator.

Now, perhaps more than ever, life is hard—really

Now, perhaps more than ever, life is hard—really hard.

And, it's not anecdotal either—Statistics Canada reports that 25% of Canadians live in food-insecure households. What the hell is going on?

We’ve just returned from working with an independent school client in Toronto. We always appreciate the opportunity to gather with a room full of individuals keen to explore healthy, high-performance strategies, as well as unpack mental and emotional interferences we unconsciously manifest. The conversation is always deep, rich, and engaging—we love it!

However, to get to the School and back to our Hotel each day, we’re often sitting in traffic. Living in Victoria, it’s always a reminder that here on the Island, we don’t genuinely appreciate what real traffic is—Toronto traffic. It never ceases to amaze me that people sit in their cars day in and day out, and endure what we consider automotive torture. If you’re not familiar with traffic in the Greater Toronto Area, it’s like nothing you’ve ever seen. It can literally take an hour or more to move a few miles in downtown gridlock. This trip was no different—our car travel was painstakingly slow.

Thankfully, there’s Uber. A few years ago, we stopped renting cars and began hiring Uber drivers to get where we needed to go. For all kinds of reasons, it made a lot of sense. Today, it’s still our travel strategy, especially when we’re in large cities. Aside from the obvious perk of not having to navigate streets I don’t know and don’t care to, we get to meet some fascinating people.

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Why Curiousity is a Key Driver of Performance. Wh

Why Curiousity is a Key Driver of Performance.

When I was in my 20s, I used to list 'curious' as an attribute on my resume—at the time, I had no idea how important it was in terms of our ability to show up at our best.

There was no prescribed strategy back then; I simply liked understanding stuff. Documentaries and investigative news shows at the time were a legitimate pastime.

Today, I appreciate the impact of curiosity with even greater understanding, especially in the context of coaching. In fact, we consider it foundational to effective coaching. Without it, the communication between coach and coachee is reduced to instructional directives: “Do this, change that, fix these.” In our world, that’s not coaching.

Mind you, it’s how I used to coach. I was all about the directives followed with “because I said so,” if asked “why!” Man, those were the days—no conversation, just a list of prescribed items to fix. It seemed so much easier!

Today, it’s all about the conversation and the resulting human connection. And not just because that’s an effective coaching strategy, but instead because of genuine curiosity. What makes curiosity so important is that it makes the questions or the inquiry more heartfelt. There’s a palpable difference between two people engaged in a meaningful dialogue where both parties are invested in co-creating solutions that improve performance.

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"Who am I becoming as a result of this chase?" Oo

Mastering the Art of Saying "No" to Protect Your F

Mastering the Art of Saying "No" to Protect Your Focus.

Easier said than done, right? It certainly seems that way; it's remarkable how many people struggle with what should be a straightforward answer.

Okay, I’ve got to admit, this is definitely an Achilles heel for me—definitely. I hate saying, “No!” And therefore, no surprise, I’m lousy at it. Does that make me a pushover or a people pleaser? I don’t know—maybe? But for me, it’s more about not wanting to disappoint than it is about wanting to please. Kinda like my approach to competition; I hate losing more than I like winning, if that makes sense. So, in this instance, the stick is undoubtedly more effective than the carrot! ;)

And it‘s not just me; many well-intentioned do-gooders struggle with overcommitting, people-pleasing, or other unexpected distractions continuously derailing their goals. Professionals, creatives, entrepreneurs—you name it—countless yes-men and women who would love to be able to say no and not feel guilty.

How bad is it? Well, a 2018 study from the University of California found that multitasking (often a result of overcommitting or always saying yes) can reduce productivity by up to 40%. Yikes, that's a lot of stuff not getting done or people who can’t say no, depending on how you want to look at it.

For those of us who know the drill, we’re all familiar with that sinking feeling every time we agree to help someone, knowing full well that we either don’t actually have the time because of other more pressing things that need getting done. Then, like clockwork, the moment arrives where someone or something gets compromised, because as much as we want to help, we can’t, or we can’t to the extent we thought we could or promised. Yucko—feels crappy!

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It's time to write book #4—but first, I need you

It's time to write book #4—but first, I need your help!

No, you're not going to write it for me; I'll do that. What I do need is for you to volunteer to be part of some research that will provide data to support my area of focus. Let me explain...

First of all, com’ on, really, another book—are you kidding me? I know, what the hell, right? Believe me, I’ve already had a few moments of regret, cursing myself for speaking the idea out loud to some friends and family.

“Jase, man, you said you didn’t have any more stories to tell—I heard you say that!”

Yup, that’s true. It’s been my answer since my last book, IKE: the dog who saved a human, came out two years ago. And for the most part, it is true; I don’t have another story that would begin to match the scope and interest of IKE. However, I do have something that I believe is worth sharing—an idea for a book that struck me last week and has been gaining steam ever since. So, here we are!

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Turns out Gratitude Practices can Reduce Stress—

Turns out Gratitude Practices can Reduce Stress—who knew?

I know, I know, it kinda cheapens the authenticity of a "Gratitude Practice" when you sell it as a stress reducer—but, hey, if the shoe fits!

When I was a kid, I remember our dad saying Grace before dinner every night. For what we are about to receive, may the Lord make us truly thankful. For these and all thy blessings. Amen. Wow, can’t believe how easily that came back—haven’t thought of it in over forty years. Regardless, it was the rhythm of our family dinners. And every time dad finished, like dogs who had heard a bell ring, we’d pick up our forks and dig in.

I can’t speak for my siblings, but in my case, I never paid much attention to the meaning behind what dad had just shared, let alone why he had. For me, it was simply some religious stuff that adults did, and I was happy to go along. Besides, it was too complicated for me to care or even want to talk about—I was good with that.

Today, we have a similar pre-meal rhythm that we’ve practiced for years now. Except, we don’t call it ‘Grace’—in fact, I don’t even know what we do call it? Giving thanks. Sharing gratitude—it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that we don’t start eating until everyone at the table has shared what they’re grateful for. It can be one thing or several—there are no rules.

Sometimes, the happenings of the day determine what gets airtime. And then you have the regulars, such as family, the dogs, our home and gardens, and our health. Simple things that on one hand seem obvious, but on the other hand, when one stops and genuinely reflects on them, wow, that’s a moment if you play it right!

When it’s my turn and I sort through my list, I try to think about the why behind the gratitude. Just as the title suggests, doing that calms me, and it raises my awareness, reminding me of what my day looked like and who or what touched me—I like that.

Now, if I’m honest, when I was in my twenties, would I have ever paused before dinner and “shared gratitude?” Not a chance. For one, I would’ve considered it too fluffy, and second, ... continued in my SubStack. Link in bio. Enjoy!

Sorry, not sorry. Apologies are fine, after the f

Sorry, not sorry.

Apologies are fine, after the fact, but what if we changed the story and subsequent behaviour before it even began?

I received a note from a reader last week sharing an article from The Athletic regarding elite US female soccer player, Carli Lloyd. Two awesome things about that—one, I always appreciate hearing from readers, especially when they have a topic suggestion, and two, it allowed me to revisit a conundrum I’ve struggled with for a long time.

Carli Lloyd, considered one of the most impactful players in the history of the game, retired in 2021, ending her playing career with her hometown club, NJ/NY Gotham FC, in the National Women’s Soccer League. No big deal, right, athletes retire all the time—even the good ones!

However, the article wasn’t about her career or retirement; instead, it highlighted her remarks from a recent induction into the Hall of Fame. During her twenty-minute speech, she did something unusual—something she wasn’t known for as a player: she was vulnerable.

“There was nothing I loved more than winning, but winning comes at a cost, and I paid that price,” confided Lloyd in her post-induction interview. “I knew I didn’t need to stand up here and talk about how much I loved the game or how hard I worked. Most of you already know that about me. What I wanted to share wasn’t from a perspective of a competitor, but as a person, a human being, and what I kept coming back to again and again was one simple question: was it all worth it?”“I operated like an emotionless machine. I was intense, and I truly believed that the only way for me to survive in such a cutthroat environment was to be that way. So, to my teammates, I want to say this: I’m sorry I wasn’t always able to give you all of me.”

Hmmm, perhaps not your typical acceptance speech. And, yes, there were some “thank you’s”—her coaches, teammates, mentors, and family—everyone you would expect to be on the list. However, it was the apology that garnered all the attention.

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Stress as a Superpower: Reframing Pressure for Gro

Stress as a Superpower: Reframing Pressure for Growth.

Okay, so how's that for flipping the script—stress as an opportunity for growth! Could it be true? Check it out...

It’s the rare moment, it seems these days, where stress doesn’t own a good portion of our time. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It turns out that good stress can fuel our days and actually support our health and wellbeing.

In the short term, having to perform under stress can be motivating and help us be at our best. It can feel exciting, too. When we get ourselves up for a new challenge, like a deadline, a race, or a competition, it boosts focus and energy without overwhelming us. I’m sure many of us can recall a time when we’ve had to perform, and it’s felt invigorating not just at the end but also during.

However, most of us can also recall a time when stress felt oppressive and distracting—a friend or family member, for example, who’s sick and struggling, a circumstance where we don’t necessarily have control over the outcome, or financial stress, where we constantly worry about paying bills and living pay cheque to pay cheque.

Regardless of the situation, it can all feel too much at times. That doesn’t make us wrong or bad; it makes us human. It’s our body’s way of letting us know something’s important to us and needs attention. I’ve often said that when my heart no longer goes pitter-patter before a keynote, I’ll stop. Why? That physiological response tells me what I’m about to do matters to me—I take it as a good sign.

But what about when there doesn’t appear to be a reprieve from the discomfort of all-consuming stress—what then? Is there something we can do to manage stress in moments where it’s not short-lived?

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